Last week, I decided to cancel my upcoming Ironman race. If you haven’t watched my video talking about why I cancelled, take a look now.. This might not seem like a big deal, but it was for me. I had such a hard time making the decision because my ego kept telling me:
“You CAN do this!”
On top of that, finance is a very compelling argument at times. I had invested over $1000 in this race and there are no refunds. There it was, my financial reasoning also told me:
“You CAN do this, you ALREADY paid!”
I would like to share with you the simple steps I took to make my decision, and most importantly how I made peace with it.
1. I took some time.
Too often we rush into decisions based on our emotional state at that moment. Yes, most decisions, even the most important ones are often made rapidly and with little sound judgement. For this one, I took a good 2 weeks to finally decide. I was itching to decide right away but I told myself that I was going to be patient. My intuition was telling me to take myself out of the race, but I wanted the time to confirm that.
2. I took myself out of the equation.
I tried my best to put things into perspective: if I was coaching this person, what would I say? If this was somebody else, and I could get an outside look at the situation, what would I say? Not the easiest thing to do, but the result can be super powerful. It’s about being honest with yourself.
3. I prayed over it.
Meditation, prayer, and reflection time can be incredibly valuable. With intention, I took time from my day to sit alone and really soak in all of the components around this decision.
I considered doing part of it. I considered just going for it, using my body, seeing if I could surprise myself. I considered so many scenarios!
My decision became the clearer and clearer in my time of prayer and reflection, until finally, I was not going to pursue this.
Now, when people ask me about Ironman I tell them that I have removed myself from the race (perhaps with slight frustration in my voice), but that I have made peace with this decision.
Next time you need to make a decision, consider these three tips. I hope you choose well.